I Am My Mother’s Daughter

With Mother’s Day just a few days away, I can’t help the bittersweet feeling that always overwhelms me during this time of the year. I love seeing all the blog/Instagram/Facebook posts dedicated to finding the perfect gift for Mom and celebrating everything that moms do for their families, but it hurts at the same time, because I know I can’t do any of that with my mom anymore. I am my mother’s daughter and that doesn’t change or fade once she’s no longer here — it just strengthens. One of the reasons I started TCL in the first place was to keep a connection with my mom alive through our mutual love of fashion, beauty, and living life to the fullest. So for this Mother’s Day, I’m going to celebrate and honor my mother in the best way I know how: by infusing a little bit of her style into mine.

One of my favorite things to do during the last few years of her life and still continue to do after she passed is to browse her wardrobe and her collection of accessories to see if I can incorporate any of them into outfits I style. Growing up, I was always bigger than my mother — not that it was hard to be, considering she was only 5’2 and was stick thin for most of her life — so I never got to share clothes with her the way that other girls got to with their moms. Her accessories though, that’s where I always found the good stuff!

Dress: Old Navy (similar) • Jacket: AC 3998 (similar) • Earrings: Kendra Scott • Photo by Green Eye’s Imaging

This striped Old Navy frock has always been one of my favorites because of the classic silhouette and how easily it can be dressed up or down, depending on what accessories it’s styled with. When I was putting together this outfit, I knew I needed a pop of color or something to make it stand out and look amazing. So of course, I popped into my mother’s closet and found exactly what I needed: her tan Hermes belt! Even though it didn’t quite match the color of my shoes, I loved how the belt broke up the dress visually and made my waist look a lot smaller.

Belt: Hermes (Thanks Mom!) • Shoes: Indigo Road (similar) • Eyes: Too Faced Natural Eyes Palette • Lips: MAC in D for Danger

Mom always had more expensive taste than I did, but she worked hard for what she wanted. I can’t remember a time when my mom wasn’t holding multiple jobs at one time — usually running from her 7am-3pm full-time job to another part-time job in the evenings — all because she liked treating herself after all the work was done. That being said, Mom was also super savvy, loved outlet mall shopping (just like I do!), and sometimes found good quality replicas of otherwise way-out-of-our-price-range items for a lot less.

I never fully appreciated her fantastic little collection until she was starting to get too sick to use them herself. It took my sisters and I a very long time before we could even go into Mom’s closet after she passed, but once we were able to, we found a treasure trove of everything she loved.

Every time I find an accessory of hers that I can work into my outfits or a top/dress of hers that catches my eye and that I surprisingly fit into, it feels like a gift she left me to find. And every time I walk out of the house wearing something of hers, it’s like she’s coming with me on an adventure. It has been about two and a half years since Mom passed, but I know her spirit’s still here with us. Sometimes I’ll talk to her when I’m going through tough times and rough situations, especially when I don’t know what to do or how to move forward. But when everything suddenly works out, I know it’s her — fixing my mistakes and taking care of things like always.

My connection to my mom hasn’t faded since her passing — it’s stronger than ever.

I see a little bit more of her in me as each day passes. Some of her passions became my passions. One of her many job titles over the years is now one of mine — although I work for the competitor! A little bit of her style has found its way into my closet and I didn’t have to spend a dime. I really am my mother’s daughter and I couldn’t be prouder of it.

Happy Mother’s Day, Mom. Thanks for letting me borrow your belt and I hope this post does you justice. <3

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